Jenny Update

Wow, a lot has happened in the last week!  I'll try to be brief. 

About 2 weeks ago Jenny started calling someone in the family almost every day telling them she was done with Jon and she wanted to move out and could they come help her.  But that has happened before and no one really took her seriously.  Mostly because she calls in the heat of the moment and by the time someone drops everything and gets to her house things have calmed down and she wants to stay there.  So no one really listened over the last two weeks.  Then Stony and I were talking and we said that in the past, she has never called this frequently for this long.  So he texted her to make sure she was safe and it started a fight. 

Last Sunday, Stony and Jenny got into a huge argument, which actually turned out to be a good thing.  They were both able to finally say a lot of stuff they hadn't said to each other and the end result was reconciliation.  Stony then asked if he could talk to Jon.  The two of them talked and it seemed like they had reached an understanding and were ready to become friends again.  When Stony got off the phone, he told me we were going over to Jenny's house.  (This was HUGE!  I've been to Jenny's several times, but only once when Jon was there.  I think it has been almost a year and a half since Stony has been to Jenny's place.)  When we got there, they were both covered in bruises and all 4 of them (Jenny, Jon and the kids) looked completely exhausted.  Neither of us said anything about the bruises and just tried to be normal (even though we both wanted to call the cops then and there...and Stony wanted to knock Jon out).  We stayed a little over an hour and when we left we took the kids with us.  After we left, Jenny and Jon got into yet another physical fight and that was the last straw for Jenny. 

Monday when she came to get the kids, she talked to Stony and told him that the entire conversation he had with her and Jon was all fake.  She told him she didn't want to be with Jon any more, she was tired of getting beat up and she knew that they could not keep treating each other or the kids like that.  She asked if she could move in and Stony said "of course" (again believing, once her body stopped hurting and she had calmed down that she would change her mind).  But she didn't.  And she wouldn't go home.  She stayed at Joe and Erin's house for 3 days and would not go home. 

She called me on Tuesday and sounded crazy, but not drunk.  It was very weird and worried me.  I didn't really get to talk to her, but called a few hours later to check on her.  She said she was fine, but wanted to talk to me about God because she had a lot of questions and she knew I believed in God and that I had always loved her.  I checked with Stony and he said she was fine.  I was weirded out! 

On Wednesday we went over to Joe and Erin's house.  Jenny and I went in a different room and talked.  It was one of the COOLEST conversations I have ever had.  The things she was saying made me cry and made my heart leap all at the same time.  She had experienced God.  She knew without a doubt that He loved her and that she was His child and that He wanted her to live a life that was not filled with grief and anger, but a life filled with love.  She knew that she no longer had to try to control things but that He would take care her and her kids.  She was experiencing human sadness and supernatural peace and joy.  She said she thought she sounded crazy and wanted to make sure that she wasn't...that it was all because of God.  She admitted that she couldn't stay away from Jon on her own and needed our help and God's help.  She told me that the night we left their house she prayed and prayed for God to help her and take care of her & the kids and help her leave.  She told me, "He had it done before it was done."  She said she finally understood what me and her mom had been telling her all these years about God loving us.  She thanked me for loving her even when she was so horrible to me.  And then said, "That is how we all need to be.  We just need to love each other and treat each other better."  Her heart had changed.  And it was so incredible!

Friday Erin helped her start packing up her house.  And today we started moving her into our house. 

She is hurting and lonely and feeling "lame".  She thinks it is stupid that she is 26 and having to live with us because she doesn't have it together enough to take care of herself and her kids.  She wants to be friends with Jon, but doesn't know how to go about doing that.  He won't leave her alone and is constantly asking her when they are getting back together--even though she has told him that that is impossible right now and that they have a lot to work on before that could happen.  (He is sure she is seeing someone else, will come back sooner the more he bothers her about it (he sent her 16 texts in an 1 1/2 hours tonight) and he is being extremely selfish and immature (in my opinion).)  The more he sends her messages, the weaker she gets and the guiltier she feels for leaving him.

I'm so glad she is living with us.  I don't think the next month is going to be cake and ice cream for any of us.  But I am confident that it will be good.

Please pray for her!